Valentine’s Day is officially here. For some of us that means showering our significant other in unyielding compliments, gifts, and gestures that pretty much haven’t been present since the beginning of our relationship. As for others, it’s just another day in the life. That notion however, is not just in terms of single people but in terms of the people that treat their significant other like everyday is Valentines Day.
Of course, too much of a good thing is never any good. However, these people manage to show their appreciation in the most simple of ways everyday (as it should be) which is just enough. Matters such as writing a small note, picking up your significant others favorite food, having an arrangement delivered to their job at random, taking them out somewhere unplanned every now and then, making something for them – these things go a long way, don’t take time or money, and show effort. It’s the thought behind each one these that truly counts, letting your significant other know that you truly appreciate them being a part of your life on every now and then.
When the effort is there, there is no room for question. Many of times we get to a point in a relationship where we discontinue showing such an effort and things manage to become stale, boring, and one of you (perhaps both of you) begins to feel unappreciated. It is reminding at random that keeps such feelings of hinderance to your relationship at bay, strengthening the bond the two of you have.
Here are 10 ways to show your appreciation everyday, not just Valentine’s Day.
Just Tell Them
As simple as it sounds many of us don’t even verbally tell each other how much we appreciate each other anymore. In the words of Kanye, “people never get the flowers while they can still smell ’em.” Simply telling your significant other how much you appreciate them can go a long way. To verbally illustrate such shows fearlessness, in that you are able to show your vulnerability and trust of your partner all at the same time.
Pick Up Their Favorite Food
You can never go wrong with food. If you know your significant other is having a bad day, or perhaps know their lunch hour, show up with their favorite food to ensure that something in their day goes right.
Go Out Unplanned
Make plans at random (NOT Valentine’s Day / Birthday / Any Day of Meaning) for a night out. Take them somewhere nice or simply somewhere of meaning to you both. It doesn’t have to be somewhere expensive, but somewhere that creates a memory.
Writing a simple note wishing them a good day, or to look in the cabinet to find their favorite cereal etc. goes a long way – as stated prior simplicity with meaning.
Have an Edible or Non-Edible Arrangement Delivered at Random
If they’re into this, and not going to be embarrassed by it, send an arrangement at random but include something original with it. Something like an inside joke, or a message that reads something else other than the familiar.
If you’re creative, you’ve kind of got a lead on everyone else. Making something for someone is probably one of the greatest extents a person can go to, to show their appreciation seeing as it takes time, dedication, and well thought out execution to do so. Create something they can cherish.
Be There in Their Time of Need
In moments of despair show up and be there for them. Don’t leave them struggling to cope, even if you have a slight feeling there may be something wrong.
This one is a relationship essential. However, small issues can go from just that to being the root of what will end things between the two of you. Listen, seek an understanding of what is being said, and take the necessary action to make things better. Don’t do the whole back and forth argument thing just seek to resolve the issue as a team – simple, though more easier said than done sometimes.
If you say you’re going to do something then do it. Always follow through with what you say you’re going to do.
Never Stop Doing the Things That Make Them Feel
Life may “get in the way” with matters such as work, kids, stresses of your own, etc. but never allow yourself to stop doing the things you did that made them feel – the things typically done in the beginning. Never allow a specific day to dictate whether you remember or not. Making such an effort should be the most difficult thing to forget if doing such is genuinely a part of your character.