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23 Reasons Living With Your Parents at 23 is Utter Misery

Given the state of today’s economic climate, more and more post-graduates remain living with their parents well after they’ve received their degrees. While this is definitely a fiscally responsible move, there’s no denying that it’s not always the most ideal situation for a 23-year-old and here are some reasons why:

  1. Regression toward childhood—it’s very easy to allow your mommy to take care of you when you’re sharing a roof. You start losing a bit of the independence you gained in college and at times you’ll have to remind yourself that you aren’t sixteen.
  2. Your bedroom—it’s a constant reminder of how awful you were before college (the corny posters, the questionable color of the paint on the walls, stuffed animals collecting dust).
  3. Not enough space—not that dorm rooms were the most spacious of places but at least they only held a semesters worth of shit. Your bedroom is now a breeding ground for everything you’ve ever owned. 23-years-worth of stuff screams clutter.
  4. Privacy—you no longer have any.
  5. Siblings—college meant not having to see your brothers and sisters which meant that the desire to kill one another was put on hold. That starts up again in full swing when you’re all back sharing the same walls.
  6. Food—unless you go out and do your own grocery shopping, you eat what your parents put on the table and while home cooking tends to be the best cooking you start to miss late night pizza and Chinese with your roommates.
  7. It’s lonely—speaking of roommates, there’s a certain level of comfort in knowing the people around you will be up till 3 AM watching Netflix by your side. Once you move back home everyone is asleep by 11.
  8. Curfew—while most parents don’t actually implement a curfew after the age of 18, they still want to know where you are and when you’ll be home. Sometimes you’re home at midnight, sometimes you’re home at 5 AM—having to answer to your parents on such matters can be annoying.
  9. Noise Control—you can’t be loud and obnoxious. Your parents don’t want to be bothered with your shit especially since you’re technically and adult now.
  10. Guests—you can’t just invite people to your house whenever you want.
  11. Drinking—in college it was acceptable to have a beer while pretty much doing anything (showering, reading, watching TV). When you move home you need to take into consideration that your parents may be alarmed by your alcoholic tendencies.
  12. Sleeping in—parents wake up early every day of the week and they get all “judgey” when they see you sleeping past noon on a Saturday or Sunday.
  13. Guilt—it’s not your fault that college was so expensive and that you can’t afford your own place but it doesn’t negate the fact that you sometimes feel like a burden still living at home. Your parents raised you for 18-years and you want them to be able to relax and enjoy the empty nest.
  14. Cleanliness—I don’t know about the rest of you, but my parents run a tight ship. They don’t appreciate mess. In college you can live in filth for days before someone points out that it’s a problem/hazard to your health.
  15. Buying things—it’s sort of weird when you live with your parents as an adult because you’re not sure where the line gets drawn. Do you have to buy your own medicine and toiletries or do you use what’s already in the house?
  16. Location—when you go from living in a cool college town or major city to moving back in with your parents, it’s kind of like a reverse culture shock. You start to miss the hustle and bustle of the place you once lived and everything seems boring in comparison.
  17. Familial Obligations—you no longer have the excuse, “I’m at school” to avoid attending certain events.
  18. Parental Judgment—it’s not a constant judgment but rest assured your parents definitely have their opinions about you still living with them.
  19. Finance control—you better be sure not to go on any obvious shopping sprees while still living with your parents. Binge shopping is a clear sign that you aren’t saving to get out.
  20. Prolonging the inevitable—living at home puts a halt on your advancement to adulthood and that can be a dangerous thing, especially for people who are lazy or afraid of real responsibility.
  21. Feeling like a loser—sometimes you’ll see other people around you moving out and feel like it’s never going to happen for you.
  22. Desperation for the future—you’ll become fixated on what your future place will be like and when you’ll be able to finally get there. Sometimes it will be hard to remain optimistic as you contemplate living with your parents until you’re 40.
  23. Even though it can be bad, it can also be pretty fucking great—living at home eliminates a lot of burden from an already stressful time of your life. Realizing how fortunate you are to have parents who are still willing to house you makes you want to hold on to them forever. There will come a time when you have to leave and be confident that with your parent’s support and guidance you’ll be able to handle it.
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