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4 “Character Flaws” That Aren’t Actually Flaws at all

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I don’t know who can possibly be the judge of character flaws, but hey, there are plenty of people out there that think they know everything so here we are. You might have heard throughout your life that some of the things you do are character flaws. You might have been convinced that something you’re doing isn’t right but some else says it isn’t right. Well, I’m here to tell you that that’s bullshit.

If you ask me, there are no such things are character flaws. People simply are who they are, and yes, some behaviors might not be the greatest so people work on them. However, calling them a flaw is a bit of a stretch.

So when people tell you any of the following, prove to them why they’re wrong:

You’re too emotional

I used to date this guy who would always tell me that I’m too emotional, too sensitive. Well, the fact of the matter was, I wasn’t. I wasn’t sensitive with anyone, ever. I never cried over anyone, I never got my feelings hurt. However, he was the only person that managed to get me to be that emotional and it’s because I loved him that much. If someone says you’re too emotional, it’s not a character flaw, it simply means that you care about someone that much.

Realistically speaking, if you didn’t give a shit about someone or something, you wouldn’t get emotional over it, right? So you getting emotional means you’re attached to something, it means that something or someone in your life gives you meaning, they give you the ability to feel that deeply.

You’re a people pleaser

Sorry to break it to you, everyone. Being a people pleaser isn’t a bad thing. Yes, trying to make everyone happy all the time can get exhausting. However, it is a good thing you when think about what it does for you. Being a people pleaser opens a lot of doors for you. Think about it in terms of your career. The bigger of a people pleaser you are, the more likely you’re going to network with a lot of people, the more likely you are to succeed.

Being a people pleaser isn’t a bad thing. It simply means that you’re a good person who wants to do everything in their power to make the people around you as happy as they can be.

You make mistakes

Are you a human being? Okay cool. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, please understand that making mistakes is part of being  a human being. Making mistakes allows you to grow, it gives you the opportunity to know what you want out of life, and it pushes you in the direction that you need to go. Making mistakes is the only way to actually become an adult, if you ask me.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that making mistakes or having a few failures under your belt is a character flaw. If anything, it shows that you actually have character. It proves that you’ve tried something, you’ve failed, and you’ve picked yourself back up from it.

You’re “anti-social”

Ugh, I hate when people say this. Let me be frank: just because someone doesn’t want to hang out with you all the time doesn’t mean they’re anti-social. You are allowed to be anti-social sometimes. You’re allowed to have time for yourself, unwind and get your mind right. A lot of people need time alone in order to hit the reset button and feel recharged again.

Just because you like spending time by yourself doesn’t mean you are anti-social and it doesn’t make it a character flaw. If anything, needed time alone is actually mature. You know that you like “me” time and you give yourself time in order to have that. You’re taking care of yourself and your needs before someone else’s.

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