Men are complex and emotional just like women. They might not show it as often, but they want someone who shares their values and challenges them to become a better person. Committing to marriage is the most important decision in most men’s lives, and one they don’t want to get wrong.
The woman we choose to marry will be with us for the rest of our lives. She’ll mother our children, share our smile during the good times, pick us up during the bad, and help us have a happy life.
So what are the things that we look for in our future wife? Usually it’s a gut feeling that she’s ‘the one,’ but there’s got to be some reasoning behind it. Here’s 6 qualities men look for in their future wife.
She shares similar values as you
They say opposites attract, but some things you have to agree on for the relationship to work. If you hold different values about family, what you find important, and how you think others should be treated, that will only become more of a problem as the relationship becomes more serious. There should be some disagreement and conflict between the two of you, but it shouldn’t be about the core values you hold closest.
She should want the same things as you do
If you’re going to marry someone, you should know her thoughts on what she defines as a family. Is it just you two living out your lives alone, or does she expect to have kids? If so, how many? If one of you wants kids and the other doesn’t, the argument could slowly tear at the relationship. It’s important to know what she wants before you consider marrying her.
She has a sense of humor
Someone with a good sense of humor is often more loose and relaxed then people who can’t take a joke. If she can’t handle your humor, the relationship won’t go far. You should be able to joke around with her without her becoming uptight. Jokes can lighten the mood and decrease the tension in the relationship. You both should be able to make each other laugh throughout the day.
This goes along with a good sense of humor. Your future wife is going to have to meet a lot of people in your life, and it’ll be a lot easier if she can get along with both your conservative mother and your alcoholic best friend. You don’t want to worry who will be at an event because your wife can’t stand them. She won’t like everyone, it’s impossible, but she should be able to put on a good front, especially if it’s one of your closest friends or relatives. If she can get along with everyone (or pretend to), it’ll stop a lot of arguments and fights in the relationship.
Stimulating conversation will keep a relationship going long after physical beauty has worn off. She should challenge your ideas and thoughts and help you grow as a person. You don’t want to end up sitting in front of the TV together every night, the only dialogue being “can you turn it up?”
She gives you the freedom to do what you want
It’s natural for people to get tired of each other. When you’ve known someone for so long, you need a break. You should be allowed to spend time away from her, pursuing a hobby or seeing your friends. You’ll be spending the rest of your lives together, but that doesn’t mean it has to be every second of the rest of your life. You want someone who will let you do the things you want to do.