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6 Reasons You Should Never Fight to Keep Anyone



Because if they want to walk away, let them

If someone wants to leave, you should never beg them to stay. Simply put, if they want to leave, let them. Clearly something in the relationship isn’t working out and you shouldn’t have to convince someone to stay. Of course, fighting for someone in a relationship is okay if you really want to make it work. However, sometimes it’s like beating a dead horse because you can’t convince someone to love you or want to be with you. If the person feels like they need space, just give it to them because otherwise you’re always going to feel like you forced them to stay.

You shouldn’t lose your self-respect

At the end of the day, if someone wants to leave and you have to convince them to stay, it’s a blow to your self-esteem. You have to lower yourself to make someone understand why they need you. And to be honest, it’s kind of like convincing someone to love you, is that really what you want to do? If you want to be in a healthy, happy, relationship, you shouldn’t have to convince your significant other to want to be with you, they should want to be with you on their own.

You’ll resent them for leaving in the first place

Even if you manage to convince the person to stay, eventually you will start resenting them for wanting to leave in the first place. Think about it, you’re going to be going through the motions of being in a relationship all while constantly thinking that this person didn’t want to actually be with you. They didn’t love you enough to want to stay and work things out. So, you’ll inevitably harbor bad feelings towards them because you’ll always going to feel like you weren’t good enough.

You need to discover yourself outside of the relationship

If someone wants to leave, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Perhaps you can take this time to figure out what you want out of a relationship. Taking time apart might be good for you in the sense that you get to discover yourself and figure out what you really want outside of your relationship, especially if you’ve been together for a long period of time. Maybe taking some time apart will make you realize that you didn’t have the feels you thought you did for this person.

Because sometimes it’s meant to be

At the end of the day, everything happens for a reason and if someone is trying to walk away, maybe they just weren’t meant to be in your life in the first place. I’m a big believer in everything happening for a reason even if you don’t know what that reason is at the moment. In retrospect, you will understand that someone leaving you now might lead to something better down the road.

Because who cares?

Really, there are plenty of fish in the sea. You shouldn’t waste your time trying to convince someone to stay with you if they don’t want to stay. Understand that you’re a prize and you deserve the best. You deserve more than having to beg someone to see why you’re worth staying with. Take a step back and really think about it: is it worth it?

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