Not many things are worse than leaving a situation, playing it out in your head over and over, then saying to yourself “what if “I said something different, or acted different. We all live with moments like this but they are not great memories to cherish, they are horrible memories to forget. Chances are there is one situation you can think of when you wished you handled it differently.
There are times in life you need to just ignore your instinct and do what you fear the most. Whether that is speaking up, stepping up, or keeping your mouth shut, all of these situations have you looking back and thinking if you could have done something differently. Asking yourself “what if” can eat you up and distract you from tasks ahead. So here are 6 things you can do to make sure you never have to say, “what if.”
Take A Risk
All of this really boils down to taking risks Taking risks can prove to be the most satisfying feeling when it works out in your favor. Whether that risk is something small, or something scarier, saying “what if” will be worse than taking a risk and failing. You know how you stop telling yourself from saying “what if?” Take a risk. It’s as simple as that.
There could be a situation in which you see someone being treated unfairly, you sit there and think about speaking up but you don’t. Maybe you are afraid to get involved, afraid the situation will escalate, or maybe you’re just tired that day, either way you look at it you needed to speak up. Maybe you stand up for someone getting harasses and you get a reward, that makes taking the risk of speaking up worth it.
Read Your Situation
Sometimes “what if” situations are just out of your control. You get reamed out by your boss and you say, “what if” I cursed him off. That is a situation where “what if” situations do not apply, unless you want to get fired then in that case go for it. But typically, “what if” situations are situations you can control. Saying “what if” I won the lottery is an unrealistic expectations verses “what if” I told her how I feel. Read your situation and determine whether it’s a “what if” situation or just a fantasy. Doing this will cut out some “what if” situations in your life, making the other ones easier to deal with.
Carry Those “What If” Times With You
Learn from your mistakes. Carrying “what if” with you can help you not want to feel that same way again It could be a similar situation where you want to do something but you don’t then you regret it, leaving nothing but a “what if” situation behind. You need to know when those situations are present, know you have been there before, know the shame you felt and learn to handle things differently. Leaning from your “what if” situations can prevent them from happening ever again.
Make Your Best Decision At The Time
Sometimes you think about a “what if” situation and you are not wrong. You need to decipher between the right decision at the time and times where you needed to do something different. Own what you did and know it was the best thing you could have done. Somethings are just out of your control no matter how many times you rethink it in your head. You are smart, use your head and know what you did was right, even if it leaves you with a “what if” situation.
Don’t Live With Regret
This is easier said than done, but a life without regret cuts out “what if” in your life. Making decisions that you stand by can eliminate all “what if” from your life because there is no “what if,” it’s what happened and I don’t regret it. Own the way you are and don’t try and fix everything in life, especially things that are different. You can’t think “what if” I forgave my ex after she cheated on me, you can’t regret your decisions no matter how much you think you made a mistake. Own yourself and you will have no regret and no thinking “what if” during the car ride home.