We fail, we succeed. Repeat.
Sometimes we succeed and then fail. Maybe we have a period of failure or in contrast, a period where we are constantly succeeding. Either way, it’s a loop we all have faced. It can take its shape through the loss of a marriage, the job we did not do properly, or the inability to get that lamp to turn on, even after we’ve changed its lightbulb three times.
Whichever way it may appear, it is necessary to come to terms with these 6 things when we are faced with failure:
Try to remember what I said – failure is a part of a process, the process of living. The first thing to do is to acknowledge the situation. What happened? What failed? After you have accepted, or at least, attempted to, begin to address your negative thoughts. Why did this happen? It’s important to remain positive and reflect on the events that have just transpired.
Don’t Let It Get You Down
Winston Churchill once said:
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
As you begin to accept and gain an understanding of the failure, don’t let it get you down. This failure may cause you to ruminate. Sometimes it can be helpful. It allows you to process and in turn, accept. However, ruminating too long will only keep you in the past. Try to live in the now.
Winston Churchill also said:
Success if not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
That rumination may stunt you, it may keep you from moving forward. Don’t procrastinate, find the courage Churchill describes – the courage to continue. You won’t know if you will succeed until you try. If you try, and fail again, remember to find that acceptance and the power to continue on.
Set realistic goals
How do you continue? Set realistic goals! These goals do not have to be dramatic. You might not be there yet. These goals can be simple, calculated. You may only need goals for a given moment. If you take a step in the positive direction and fail, go back. Plan your next move and then act. As these actions unfold, you will move forward and grow closer to succeeding.
Someone else failed, too! It’s controversial to compare and contrast – I do not encourage it. I do encourage the understanding that everyone around you has failed at something. Maybe the women next to you on the subway tried to be a singer, but couldn’t hold a tune. Maybe it’s the man walking up the steps behind you – he was unsuccessful in his attempt to secure that promotion. It could even be your boss, the one you have grown to respect, who failed at something at the beginning of their career.
Above all else, bounce back. Churchill, again, put it rather eloquently:
“If you are going through hell, keep going.”
Remember the value you place on succeeding. How can you understand that value without taking into account failure? You can’t. You don’t. You won’t. Try to bounce back.