Yeah, love’s important, blah blah but please stop saying that your main focus in the new year is to find love. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve spoken too that have told me their “resolution” is to open up more and find love. Look, don’t get me wrong, love is one of the most important things in the world. However, I’m almost certain that you can’t actively go search for it like a pit bull looking for a bone. Instead, you need to learn to let it come to you.
Rather than focusing on swiping right on everyone in the hopes of finding your one true love, focus on other things that will make you a better person. Focus on what’s important to you and let love come to you when it’s time. Believe me when I tell you that you won’t find love before you’re actually ready.
So, sit back and focus on these things instead:
The most important relationships you’re ever going to have is the only you have with yourself. So, instead of focusing on finding love this year, focus on making yourself a better person. Travel more, experience more things, let to be more positive, figure out what you really want out of life. Think about yourself as if you’re in a relationship with yourself. What makes you happy? Figure that out and go follow your dreams.
Building friendships and family
A romantic relationship is important, sure. However, your relationships with your friends and family is also important. So instead of search for love in ever corner of the shit hold dive bar you frequent, focus on building relationships with the people who are already in your life. Go out and socialize more. Being an adult is hard, so when you do have time, be more involved in your friends and families lives. Hang out with them, go for dinner, whatever. Make sure those relationships thrive rather than focusing on a relationship that doesn’t even exist.
I mean, duh. You need to focus on your career because it’s your future. Focus on what you need to do in order to get to where you want to be. Focus on a career that you want. Make goals for yourself. Achieve those goals. Though being happy in a relationship is important, so it fulfilling your dreams. So go out and kick some ass at work and get to where you want to be.
Literally anything that’s important to you
Look, focusing on finding love is a dead end. No, not because it’s 2016 and everyone is basically undateable. It’s impossible because you don’t just find love, love finds you. It finds you when it knows you’re actually ready for it. So instead of focusing all of your energy on finding love and creating a relationship out of thin air, focus on the things that are actually important to you. Anything that brings you joy in your life, focus on that and the rest will come.