What does “finding yourself” mean? How do you do it? You could take a vacation or go on an adventure. You could volunteer through an organization or help someone in need. Try self-reflecting and living in the moment. Accept who you are and try to connect to the individuals, circumstances, and day-to-day things around you. Understand where you stand and where you would like to stand in the future.
What happens if you do? What happens when you “find yourself” or at least try to? Pay attention! When you work on finding yourself, certain truths come out.
When you take the time to “find yourself,” you’ll realize that it will not, has not, and cannot happen all at once. Of course, in some instances it can. Maybe something severe happened and you took it heart. Maybe nothing happened and that is exactly the point. Most likely it will not happen overnight. What are you doing to ensure this process? The first thing you will learn is that it takes time. Discovering who you are may takes days, weeks, months, years. If you think you’ve successfully “found yourself,” think again. You are constantly being exposed and will therefore continue to discover who you are.
To Try and To Fail
This process leads to a trial and error. You will try new things: a new job, a new relationship, a different dish on that menu you have memorized. Maybe that job is not the right fit, that relationship is destined to fail, or that new dish you tried solidified the fact that you do indeed dislike those ingredients. Discovering who you are stems from trying and in turn, failing. Failing isn’t always negative; it can be positive. You have discovered something more about yourself – you have learned from your mistakes.
When you work on “finding yourself,” you expand your comfort zone. You stepped out of that box, the one you have grown accustomed to. You tried something new, something scary or unpredictable. You embraced a challenge or took a risk. From there, you have learned where you comfort zone starts and ends. How far can you push yourself? What are the benefits? You will discover their significance.
You’ve worked on “finding yourself” and will therefore begin to realize what you like and what you don’t like: your favorite music, food, color, clothes, person, artist, or activity. You will begin to understand your own values: how you want to live, your sense of integrity, or the line between right and wrong. How far does honesty and loyalty take you? What looks good on you and what doesn’t?
As you “find yourself,” you begin to discover who your friends are. What kind of friends do you have? Do you seem to value quality or quantity? Maybe both. Which of your friends will stick? What attracts you to them and them to you? “Finding yourself” answers these questions.
Willpower / Asking for Help
Upon “finding yourself” you realize the weight of your willpower. How do you act or react? How strong is your self-control? What can or can’t you resist? This truth will reveal itself. In addition, you will start to understand the significance of asking for help. You can ask for guidance from those you trust. You will form the conception that you cannot always do things on your own. It may take a few questions and answers to continue to discover who you are.