I know it can be tough to make changes when it comes to dating or relationship, but this is a new year, new you, right? It’s time to really look at what you have going on and see where you need to chance things. Whether you’re single and happy, single and looking, or in a relationship, there are little things we can all tweak in order to make our love lives a bit better. Considering 2017 has just started, this is the perfect time to do it.
Be more selective
Don’t be a pretentious asshole and have impossibly high standards, but be more selective with who you give your heart to because not everyone deserves if. If you’re one of those people that gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and wants to see the good in them, that’s great, but you have to be able to protect yourself a bit too. Don’t be closed off, but make someone work for you heart. Make sure they’re work it before you give your all to someone, especially if you don’t know them that well. I know most of us get excited when we’re in a new relationship or start dating someone, but learn to be more cautious.
Don’t sweat the little things
If you’re in a long term relationships, learn to not sweat the small stuff. In theory, the small bullshit that couples fight about and typically let escalate are so miniscule that they won’t matter in a year from now. So instead of picking fights and getting on each other’s nerves all the time, learn to let things go. If it won’t matter a year from now, it’s not worth getting into a fight over. The less you sweat the small stuff, the happier your relationship will end up being.
Stop wasting your time
Stop wasting your time with people you know you’re not going to be with. In the new year make sure you actually want to get to know someone and you’re not simply looking for someone for the sake of being in a relationship. If you think that someone “may have potentional one day,” you’re wasting your time. If you think you can change them, you’re wasting you’re time. If you’re not really feeling it, you’re wasting your time. Stop wasting your time, damn it!
Put yourself first (most of the time)
Don’t be selfish when it comes to dating or relationships, but remember that sometimes it’s okay to think about yourself first. It’s okay to think about yourself because in reality, who else is going to think about you? Make sure you’re happy. Make sure you’re comfortable. Make sure you’re doing what you want to be doing. I guess what I’m really try to say is don’t bend too much for someone else unless they’re bending for you too.
Learn to bounce back
Look, bad shit happens in relationships all the time and you have to learn to bounce back from it. Rather than sitting and sulking all the time, you have to remember that whether you’re going through a fight or a break up, you will be absolutely fine. Learn to bounce back from it better than you were before.
I know that it can be annoying to admit that someone else might be right about your relationship, but learn to live with it. When you need advice about what to do, ask for it. To be honest, if it wasn’t for my mom I’d probably have no idea how to be in a relationship. If there’s one change you can really make, make it that you learn to take advice from people who have been where you’ve been and know what the hell they’re doing.
Hey guys, you want to know what the key to a good relationship is? LISTENING. Yes, you actually have to listen to your significant other because guess what? It’ll make your relationship so much better. When you listen to each other you actually learn how to be together, you learn what makes the other person tick and you figure out what it takes to make the relationship work.