In theory, having someone who’s money you can just endlessly spend seems nice, right? If you’re in a relationship and your partner says they’ll “take care of you” and give you free reign of the cash and cards, it could be hella fun for some time. You can buy whatever you want, do whatever you want, it sounds amazing.
There’s a time in all of our lives when we think it would be great to have someone take care of us financially. However, that’s really not the case. Whether it’s your parents, your significant other, or your old neighbor down the hall who you take care of and they give you a ton of money of off guilt, it’s not a good thing.
You can never really trust anyone
Here’s the bottom line: you never know when that money is going to be taken away from you. If you earn it on your own, it’s yours. It’s your bank account, it’s your financial cushion. But imagine this. You rely on your significant other for money, then all of a sudden, they get up and walk out on you. What are you left with? You can’t put the trust of your well being onto someone else.
You don’t know what their intentions are
What if someone is giving you that money in order to use it as leverage later? Something like “Oh, I bought you that, not you owe me this.” Believe me, that’s not a situation you want to be in. Whether or not you trust the person who’s supporting you, you never really know what someones intentions are, especially if the relationship goes sour.
You don’t want to rely on someone
Do you want to be the kind of person who sticks there hand out and has to rely on someone else to give them money? No, you really don’t. If you’re asking someone for something, they have the right to say no. You don’t want to be caught in the position in which you need something and you can’t go out and get it yourself.
They could throw it back in your face
Remember when I spoke about leverage? Well, this is basically it. If someone financially supports you, they have a hold on you whether you like to believe it on not. The person who’s supporting you might even take it as far as throwing it in your face that they’re doing so. When that does happen, it will make you feel less than and that’s a terrible feeling.
You’ll feel better doing it for yourself
There’s a certain find of accomplishment when you work your ass off, make money, and can afford things on your own. When you do it for yourself, it’s yours. There’s nobody that can take it away from you, nobody that can tell you what to do, and nobody to throw anything in your face. You earned it, so you got it.
You won’t be tied down
Like I said, what if the money stops flowing one day. What are you going to do then? You can’t be tied down to someone else just for the money because at a certain point that can all stop. You’re better off getting it for yourself and living your own life.
You don’t have to answer to someone
If you’re relying on someone else financially, you likely have to call them before making a big purchase, right? Well, if you rely on yourself financially, you don’t have to call anyone about anything. You earned that money on your own, so you can spend it on your own; in whichever way you want.