Relationships are hard and it takes so much work from both parties to make it work. People who say that love is always enough is a fucking liar, love isn’t enough. There is so much more that goes into making a relationship work that has nothing to do with love. So if you’re working so hard to make a relationship work, you better make sure it’s worth it; that means that no bullshit can be tolerated. Of course, it’s inconceivable to put up with cheating or anything to that regard, but there are countless things that should not be put up with no matter how hot your partner is.
Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way a relationship expert but I am definitely a woman who has been around many women who put up with some shit. And that, my friends, is not your energy or time. Don’t be a person that relies so much on a person that you are willing to withstand aspects of your significant other’s “quirks”. And I put that in quotations because nothing that is toxic for you should ever be defended as a quirk. Don’t put up with shit, you are worth more than that.
Emotional or verbal abuse
If your partner is constantly yelling at your or calling you names, then they are not worth your time. You cannot defend someone calling you a bad name because they’re “angry”, that’s crap. Don’t let anyone make you feel badly about yourself. I believe Eleanor Roosevelt said it best when she stated that “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.
This is a no fucking brainer. You touch your partner in an aggressive way, you are getting dumped immediately. There is no reason to be physically aggressive towards another person; that just proves your lack of control and coping skills. Don’t let anyone lay a hand on you in an aggressive way.
Your partner is lucky to have you. They should appreciate your body and love it because it houses your soul. Every part of your being is beautiful and no one should demean your body especially not the person that is supposed to love you.
Someone who doesn’t believe in your dreams
If your partner can’t support your dreams, then they don’t support you. Your partner should dream alongside you and work with you to achieve your goals. Somebody who doesn’t want you to achieve your highest potential is someone who wants you to get trapped in being average. You aren’t average, don’t let them hold you back.
Someone who doesn’t want to shout from the rooftops of your relationship status
The person that has the honor to date you should want to sing about being with you all the time. Don’t buy into the bullshit of keeping your relationship “private” because your love is only meant to be shared between “you two”. That’s fishy and a clue that you shouldn’t be with that person. Be with someone who wants to be with you.
A partner that keeps you from your friends
Your friends make up how you are as a person. You grow with them and learn with them and your partner should support that. There are experiences you’ll never be able to share with your lover because it’s something that’s special with your friends. Your partner should never keep you from your friends, it just shows their controlling nature.
When someone is constantly accuses you of cheating
If you are constantly being accused that means your partner doesn’t trust you. With no trust, there is no relationship, point blank.