One of the most exciting things about a new relationship is that initial spark. You two are feeling so lusty, you can barely keep your hands to yourself! But as time goes by, sometimes that intense attraction and intense feelings go from strong flames to ashes. Life hits you, and you and your partner are just too comfortable. You don’t do the same things you use to and your attraction to each other is lost. Well, it’s not too late to find that excitement that’s missing in your relationship.
Looks do matter
As superficial as it may seem, looks do matter. Remember the efforts you made for your partner at the beginning of your relationship—try maintaining it. Self-care is key to keeping the attraction alive in a relationship. So that underwear with the worn-out hole in them may be comfortable but it’s time for you to throw them out. Make some effort in who you are and how you look. Your partner will not only notice it but appreciate how you look.
Dedicate some alone time without electronics
I can see people having a conniption as they read this. But we all hate to admit how much time we spend on our phone, laptops, and tablets. All that time spent scrolling through Instagram liking random people’s selfies can be the time you spend engaging in conversation with your partner. Try getting off the phone and spending some quality time together. Find time even if it’s only ten minutes a day to talk to one another and open up. If you can’t communicate without your phone or laptop, how are you going to communicate in the bedroom? Spend time just cuddling together, perhaps watching your Netflix show. Just showing that you care enough to make time for each other will make you both happy.
Go on vacations together, alone
If giving up your phone is really challenging for you, try going on a baecation—a trip dedicated to hanging out with bae. One of the best ways to keep the attraction in your relationship is to go on a trip together. Choose a destination you will both enjoy. If you don’t have a lot of time or a big budget; plan a weekend getaway to a nearby destination and that won’t cost you. Explore a new city. Drink local wine. Sleep in a new bed. Enjoy each other’s company in a new environment.
Take each other on surprise dates
The same old routine of cooking dinner, washing the dishes and watching tv together can get boring. Spice things up by planning a surprise date night. In an attempt to change up the meaning of date night, planning a surprise date night can be a fun way to switch things up. It shows your partner that you put in the effort to do something fun to do together when he or she least expected it.
Make time for some TLC
There nothing more sensual than some tender loving care. If you have an active sex life with your partner, make take time for sex. Set aside one night a week for adult time where you spend the night pleasuring each other. It doesn’t always have to lead to full sex but it’ll be a great chance for you two to explore each other and show that there is still a mutual attraction between the both of you. Sometimes a good massage will suffice. This gives you and your lover the opportunity to bond with each other and you will both have a chance to unwind.
Give to your partner
Giving show that you’re making your partner a priority. Remember, if you contribute nothing, you get nothing. Think about what you can give to your partner to make them feel filled, seen, and understand that they are your top priority. It doesn’t have to be materialistic, you can give in the form of compliments or attention. Whatever you do make it count.
Appreciate Your Partner
After a certain amount of time, relationships reach a comfort level that can sometimes be toxic to the future of the relationship. You think you don’t need to say, “I love you” as much because your partner should just know. You think you don’t need to compliment something great about your partner because you’ve already complimented him or her about it in the past. All of these things and so much more can be a kill the attraction in your relationship. Don’t wait for things to get better, make things better by showing your partner how much they really mean to you.