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7 Ways Sex Can Get Better The Longer You’ve Been Together

In long-term relationships, people tend to say that their sex life is boring. Sometimes people cheat on their long-term partners because they don’t realize what they have. They get bored. However, when you’re in a relationship for the long haul, there can be many benefits. In other words, the sex can actually get way better.


The longer you are in a relationship, if you two click, the better your relationship gets. This means that your bond will also get better. The greater your bond, the better the sex. The closer you are, the easier it is to read your partners body language. When you can communicate without even talking, sex gets a whole lot better.

Know Your Bodies

The longer a relationship is, the better you can get to know a partner. The more you know your partner’s bodies, the better the sex can get. Why? Because you know where their spots are. If you pay attention over time, then you know exactly what buttons to hit to make your partner melt and moan. Knowing someone bodies is essential and there are so many things one can find out. The best way to do this is over time in a long term relationship.

No Insecurities

When you are having sex with someone for the first time, it can be a nerve-wracking time. Insecurities can be horrible. You worry about your weight, your hair, if you’re doing good in bed. When you’re in a long term relationship, insecurities tend to fade away. You get to know your partner’s bodies almost as well as your own. So as time moves on, your embarrassment and insecurities start to go away. If for example, if something awkward happens in bed, you both can laugh it off and move on.


When you are in a relationship, not only do you get familiar with your turn on but also your limits. You know just how flexible you are or if anal is forbidden or a given.  Everyone has their own comfort zone. It is so easy to wander into awkward territory with someone new when you don’t know what to touch or what they like. In a long term relationship, you do not have to quiz your partner on limits. Why? Because you have been there and done that.


It takes time to build trust. Over time, bonds solidify. If you want to experiment, it helps to be with someone who has your trust. With a long term partner, it can be so much better. You have someone who you can be honest with, to try out your fantasies and vice versa. With someone new, you might not be sure how they are going to react. With a long term partner, you do not have to worry so much.


When you know each other spots, you do not need marathon sex. It can be just a satisfying to get into a heart-racing, sweaty session of sex. However, sometimes this is not possible with someone new. With a long term partner, they know which spots to touch to turn you on instantly whereas someone new might fumble to get it right.

Communication is Key

I do not know how many times I have said this, but it is essential. Communication extends into the bedroom. It is important to communicate not only about your sex life but with other things as well. We carry all types of things with us into the bedroom. In a long term relationship, that line of communication is more open and trusted. It allows a level of comfort that will translate in the sheets.


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