Along with all of our good genes, there’s always a couple of bad genes throughout the mix. I know, I know. It’s hard to believe that any of us could have bad traits, right? Well we do, and sometimes that prevents us from ever finding love. I want you to find someone who loves you just as much as you love them, so I’m going to help you do that by giving you a list of 8 things you do that constantly kill your chances at love:
Lack of confidence
There’s nothing worse then dating someone who has no confidence or self-respect; it’s a major turn off. I know sometimes it can be hard to be your most confident self when meeting someone new, or around someone you really like, but coming into the situation being confident is key. However, always remember confidence is sexy, but being cocky is a turn-off.
Saying no to things
If you’re constantly saying no when people ask you to go out how do you think you’re going to find the love of your life? Look I love staying home and watching Netflix as much as the next person, but getting out and about is the key to success in life. Say yes every once in awhile, it’s good for the soul.
Scared to commit
I know committing to someone is scary, but it’s also so much better than being in that weird talking stage. Being able to call him your boyfriend and not having to worry about the little silly things anymore is so reassuring. So next time someone you’re talking to wants to commit to you, don’t freak out and run away; be civil and actually have the conversation.
Moving too fast
Some of you on the other hand are on the other side of the spectrum. Instead of being scared to commit you’re moving too fast and wanting to commit way too early; this often will scare the other person away, and ruin your chance of love. You need to slow down and figure out if this is someone you really want to be with. I know the talking stage is stupid and annoying, but it’s a thing for a reason; this is where you figure out all the good and bad things about the person. That’s the stage where you figure out how much you actually like them, don’t just skip over it.
Not putting yourself out there
This is kind of in the same category of saying no to things. I know it’s scary but sometimes you have to go out on a limb and go on a blind date, or talk to the hottie at the bar. If you don’t put yourself out there you’re going to die as a lonely cat woman, and you don’t want that.
Being on your phone too much
MAJOR turn-off! If you’re on your first date with a guy or your 700th date, do not be on your phone the whole time. I’m so tired of having to tell my friends to put their phones down at dinner so we can have an actual conversation. I can’t imagine being on a date where the other person is on their phone the whole time; honestly I think I would get up and leave. Don’t be the person that makes your date want to leave because you’re being anti-social.
Being clingy af
There’s nothing worse than a clingy companion. How can you love someone that’s smothering you all the time. They don’t want you to do anything risky, they don’t want you to go anywhere without them, and they certainly don’t want you to have other friends. It’s unattractive, annoying, and unlovable.
Comparing him to an ex
If you’re trying to find a guy who you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, comparing him to your ex is not going to help. It’s going to ruin any chance you have because they’re going to know you’re comparing them to someone. Don’t scrutinize the poor guy all day, and certainly don’t let him know you’re comparing him to an ex. He’ll drop you on spot and you can say bye bye to love forever.