Relationships are the best, really. You always have someone to hang out with, you have someone you love and who loves you back, you really have a support system. Unfortunately, it’s always more fun in the beginning because it’s new. When you’ve been together for a while, things tend to get routine. You tend to forget why you got together in the first place and it becomes more about comfort than actually remember that you not only love your partner, but you actually like them too.
Of course you still want to be together. What I’m saying is that the spark you felt when the two of you first got together might not be there anymore. But that spark is important. Luckily, even though it might fade, you can certainly get it back.
Go out on more dates
I know this sounds kind of corny, but you need to make time for date nights. At least once a week (more if possible) you need to go out together and have fun. Forget about all the other bullshit and simply go out and enjoy your time together. Go to dinner, hang out, have some drinks; really remember what it was like when you first started dating. When you have regular date night’s it’ll bring the spark right back into your relationship.
Here’s a sad fact: the longer you’re together, the less you talk. I don’t know why, but eventually you’ll just stop talking about the big things because you’ve already covered all of that, and soon after, you’ll stop talking about the little things to. So, make time to actually sit and talk to one another. Even if it’s just over dinner at home, once you make communicate part of your routine, it will come naturally.
Have unexpected sex
Think back to when you first started dating. You probably had sex all the time, everywhere, no matter what. You were so obsessed with each other that you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other and it was fun as hell. So, in order to bring that spark back, have unexpected sex. Surprise each other by getting down and dirty at random times, in random places, and just have fun again. There’s nothing more boring than knowing you’re going to have sex because it’s a Friday.
Nothing brings a spark back into your relationship quite like laughter. Laughter is the best medicine, right? Find something to laugh over together. Go to a comedy club, watch a funny movie, make jokes, do whatever you have to in order to just have fun together again. When you start to have fun and you laugh, it’ll bring you closer and bring that spark right back.
Recreate some memories
I have this thing where on each anniversary, my partner and I go to the place where we first met. There’s something about it that brings us both right back to that amazing moment when we first met. We think about how far we’ve come in our relationship and it instantly reminds us how much we love each other and how the spark has always been there.
Make some new ones
And of course, it’s important to make new memories. You need to experience things together all the time. Go out, have fun, go apple picking (or whatever the fuck couples do). Go experience life together. Take a trip. Take a chance. Enjoy each other.
Get rid of the phones
I know this is going to sound insane, but get rid of the fucking phones. One night a week, make it a point to not have your phones around for the evening. Think about it this way, you barely get any quality time between work, chores, responsibilities, etc. So if you want real quality time, you need to get rid of the phones. Put them away and just enjoy each other’s company.
Hug each other
This is weird, but bear with me. Hugging someone is not really sexual at all, but it’s very intimate. If you want to put the spark back into your relationship give each other more hugs. Hugging the person you love allows you to be vulnerable, close, and caring. It’s just nice, to be honest. Try it.