There comes a time in every relationship where you have to make that step. The problem is, many people struggle in execution of the pursuit of progressing into a serious relationship.
It seems as if the most prevalent problems people have during this progression is preparing for the relationship itself, not knowing what to change in order to be successful.
It’s important to note that all these pieces of advice aren’t just for a one-time use; they’re actions you should be taking throughout the entirety of the rest of your relationship. If put into action, and hopefully if your partner is on the same wavelength as you, it can lead to a happy, successful, and constructive relationship.
Recognize that you want a serious relationship
You gotta know what you want before you can have it. A lot of problems in relationships stem from the fact that one partner’s idea of a serious relationship isn’t reciprocated. If you or your partner have issues with the idea of a serious relationship, try to bring the topic up appropriately as soon as you can. If you let the issue loiter around unresolved, it could create big issues the longer you wait.
Realize that you and your partner have differences, and that they’ll make you stronger
No two people are ever going to be 100% alike. You and your partner are going to find something that you don’t agree on, and how you both react to that shows how strong your relationship is. Rather than letting a difference like that divide, have it bring you two closer together, sharing your perspectives on why you both feel the way that you do. Always be open and accepting of what your partner believes, and try to avoid criticizing something they feel passionate about.
Don’t overreact if your partner is having a bad day
If your partner’s mood or actions always seem to be directed towards you, try not to overthink it too much. Perhaps your partner is just having a bad day, and is channeling their emotions towards you. Everybody needs an emotional punching bag every now and then. Be there for your partner even when their day has gone to utter shit, and remind them that you’re always there for them, whatever day it is.
Be on the same wavelength, sexually
Bear with me here. Knowing your partner’s sex drive is an understated yet crucial part of any relationship. If you two are on entirely different sex drives with no overlap, it can really disrupt your sexual chemistry, which could then overlap into your emotional chemistry as well. Try to find a solid middle ground that both you and your partner can stand on.
At the right time, bring up the idea of moving in together
Careful with this one. If you propose this idea too soon, you might scare your partner, and they might think that the relationship is moving too soon. Bring up the idea to your partner when moving in together actually seems like a feasible idea, and when you get to that point that a day spent not seeing them is a day wasted.
Have a strong presence to your partner’s family
Your partner’s family might be skeptical of them being with someone that they barely know. You don’t have to go out of your way too much to avoid this though. Whenever your partner has a family event to go, go with them! When you’re there don’t be afraid to talk to their relatives, and always remember to be kind and courteous. Your partner’s family will love that you’re outgoing and not afraid to talk to them.
Be aware of your partner’s dreams and aspirations
What they think their future is says a lot about them. Like what I mentioned in the last piece of advice, always be supportive of what your partners aspires to do with their future, and avoid criticizing. If you’re open to what your partner’s future holds, you might just find yourself as a part of it!
Don’t stop doing the little things
It’s what counts. Asking them how their day was, telling them they look great today (even if they don’t), or even just little surprises. Don’t stop doing the things that made you woo your partner in the first place. Little things like these are just another way of saying “I love you,” and reminds your partner that you care about them and are always thinking about them. Continue doing them both before and after the relationship gets serious.
Ask yourself, “Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?”
The big question, but don’t worry if your answer is initially no. Some people are intimidated by the thought of spending the rest of their life with one person, and it may take them some getting used to in order to be comfortable with it. It’s something that obviously shouldn’t be taken lightly, and you should only say yes when you’re absolutely 100% certain that it’s what you want. When you get to that point when you realize that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with anyone else, your answer will change to yes.