Women are complicated, I get it. However, what it really boils down to be decoding her actions and what they actually mean. Because most men are humanly incapable of doing so, I’m here to help you out a bit.
As someone that’s been in rocky relationships before, I can tell you that there’s likely a reason for every behavior your girlfriend exhibits. Unfortunately, most men are terrible at noticing these slight changes let alone realizing there’s something wrong.
If your girlfriend is doing any of the following, it’s because she truly upset with you and questioning your relationship altogether:
Picking fights with you
If not because she enjoys picking fights with you, it’s simply because she doesn’t know what else to do. She feels like if she starts picking fights than at least you can start a conversation that may end in a solution to the actual problem. When a women picks a fight, she rarely does it without thinking. Trust me, she has a strategy and most of the time it’s simply to get you talking.
You might think it’s because she just need some “me” time, but in reality, she’s withdrawing because she feels disconnected from you. Whatever you’ve been doing lately to upset her, she doesn’t how to deal with it so she withdraws while she tries to figure out what to do. Women withdraw in general so they can come back with a clear game plan. If you find her withdrawing more than usually, it’s likely because she’s figuring out what she wants to do.
She’s working non-stop
When things aren’t going well in your relationship, it’s easy for most to find distraction in their work. So if you see that your girl is laser focused on work and is putting in more time than before, it’s because she needs the distraction in her life. She wants to stop thinking about the problems the two of you are having and wants to focus on something in which she can be productive. You may just think she’s working more because she’s dedicated, but really it’s because there’s an issue going on.
Saying no to sex
When you’ve been in a relationship for long enough, sex is no longer just sex. Sex becomes an emotional thing between a couple that’s actually in love. If she’s upset with you, she’s going to say no to sex a lot. It’s not because she doesn’t want it, it’s because she’s not emotionally there. She not in the state of mind to pretend to enjoy sex with you, when really, that’s the last thing on her mind.
Stop telling her she’s giving you the silent treatment, that’s not what’s going on here. The real problem is that she has nothing left to say to you. She’s spent all of her energy on your relationship and to be honest, she’s just tired. If you think she’s just being a brat and not talking to you, you’re wrong. It’s really just her giving up in a way.
She’s talking to your friends more
No matter how long you’ve been together, there are still certain things you tell your boys which you don’t tell her. Because she’s unsure of your relationship, she’s going to try to reach out to them to get a glimpse in your mind a bit. She wants to know where you’re at and what you’re thinking. If you find her texting back and forth with your friends, it typically means that she’s trying to find a solution to a problem that already exists.
Buying things left and right
If your girl is buying up shit left and right, there’s a problem going on. I don’t want to be stereotypical and say women love shopping, but it does fill a certain void. Stop yourself and ask “Why is she trying to change things around? What is she not happy about?” Going on a shopping spree is a reason for you to start worrying because simply put, she’s trying to find happiness in other things because she can’t find it with you.
She stops talking future
Let’s say you’re girlfriend constantly spoke about a future with you and suddenly, she stops. Most men won’t really realize that it’s happening, but for the few who do, it’s because she stopped thinking of you in her long-term plans. Whatever you’re doing is upsetting her so much that she can’t bring herself to think about a future with you because she doesn’t know what her next move is.
She straight up tells you she’s not happy
If you’re fighting with your girlfriend and she straight up tells you that she’s not happy, it’s not because she’s being spiteful and it’s not because she’s trying to hurt you. If a woman is flat out telling you how she feels, she actually feels that way. Don’t dismiss the feeling just because you think it’s bullshit, actually listen and try to understand what the problem is and where you’re going wrong. Remember guys, a man is judged by the size of of the smile of the woman sitting next to him.