You may be familiar with Thomas Dekker. Dekker stars in Heroes alongside Hayden Panettiere, The Secret Circle, and The Sarah Connor Chronicles. But what you may not know is that he recently came out as a gay man.
On top of that, Dekker revealed that he’s also married. Dekker officially came out of the closet simply because Bryan Fuller had already outed him. If Fuller sounds familiar it might be because he’s the creator of shows like Hannibal and American Gods.
While Fuller was discussing sexuality at an Outfest Los Angeles panel he let it slip that Dekker was gay. When Fuller was talking about the topic of “het-washing” in Hollywood (when a character who is intended to be gay is is turned straight during production of the TV show).
Fuller called out Dekker from the first season of Heroes whose management team threatened to take him off the show. They threatened to pull him if his character on the show was gay.
Fuller then revealed “The character became straight, and the actor came out as gay.” Thus outing Dekker to the world.
It didn’t take long for Dekker to post on Instagram explaining his sexual orientation. He started his letter with, “My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to ‘out’ me,”
My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to "out" me. While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots. While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier. I have never lied to the press about the fluidity of my sexuality but this man claiming that I came out is not true. Because I have not "officially" until this moment. I simply refuse to be robbed of the glorious joy that belongs to me. To say the words myself. "I'm gay". Those words are a badge of honor that no one can steal. Sexuality and who you love is a deeply personal and complicated thing. For some of us, it takes time to cultivate, discover and conclude. It is not something anyone should ever be ashamed of and certainly not something anyone should be rushed into. I agree with many who believe it is an important responsibility for LGBTQ persons with a platform to come out. It has the power to change minds, challenge beliefs and make others feel understood and supported. It can strengthen the progression of our community and help disarm those who discriminate against us. It is a brave, powerful and important thing to do but it is also a deeply personal decision. One that should only be made when you are ready. If we are to stand strong in the gay community, our mission should be support, not exclusion; love, not shame. I choose not to look back on the past with a regretful heart but rather focus on the future with a hopeful one. A future where myself and all others can feel free to express their true selves with honor and dignity. I embrace you, any of you, with open arms, kindness, faith and patience. For all of you who have supported me, before and now, I thank you from the bottom of my fledgling heart. Be proud of who you are. No matter how long it takes.
Dekker continued with, “While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots.”
You would assume that he would be angry for getting outed but instead Dekker thanks Fuller. “While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier.”
This public post about being gay is Dekker making huge strides considering in 2007 on a blog post he defended not wanting his character to be gay not because he was homophobic but because he felt it wasn’t right for the character.
Well Thomas Dekker is now a proudly open gay man, welcome out of the closet.