Unfortunately, as millennials we’re programmed to think that anytime something is going really well, it’s probably going to blow up in our faces. Never has this been more true then when it comes to millennials and relationships. Think about it, we’re all online dating, we’re all going through the ringer when it comes to finding “the one,” so when we do find someone normal, we think it’s too good to be true.
It’s okay, you’re not alone. We’re all the same. As millennials we’re endured so much garbage that it’s common to think something is “up” when something is good. Luckily, you have me here and I’m going to rewire your brain a little bit today.
When something is going well, it doesn’t mean it’s too good to be true. In actuality, when you’re in a relationship, things actually have to be this good. When they’re this good, that’s when you know you’ve found the right person. Don’t be an asshole and throw it away just because you want to split before things get too serious and you can potentially get hurt.
Anyway, when it comes to relationship, there’s no such thing as too good.
This is how it’s supposed to be
In reality, when someone isn’t lying to you, cheating on you, or being disrespectful to you, that doesn’t mean it’s too good to be true. It simply means that you’ve found a decent human being. Congratulations. When your relationship seems to be going really well, rather than question it, why don’t you just enjoy the gift you’ve been given. Better than anyone, you should know that it’s tough to find good people out there, so enjoy your life. The person you’re with is supposed to adore you, be nice to you, and make you feel blissful.
Stop waiting for the other shoe to drop
Don’t be an asshole and think things are too good to be true and run away. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is essentially breaking something off because you think the person might end up lying, cheating, or hurting you. So instead, you have your guard up and don’t let anyone in. Ever. Unfortunately, that’s also how you maintain unhealthy relationship. If you don’t put the walls done and realize that you found a good person, you’re never going to be happy.
Embrace what you have
Stop worrying. Seriously. Stop. Don’t think about how someday something bad might end up happening and you’re going to get hurt. Don’t think about how everything is so “perfect” something bad is bound to happen. Don’t think about shit. Just live your life and embrace your relationship. If you’re in a good relationship, worrying for no reason is just going to bring it down. So enjoy the moment and live your best damn life.
Let go of your bullshit
I know everyone has been hurt in the past. Well, spoiler alert: your past has nothing to do with your present. Just because someone was an asshole to you in the past doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen again. You can’t judge your current experience on that of your past. So, instead of constantly having trust issues and emotional baggage, just let go of everything and again, embrace what you have.