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The Truth is “I’m Not Looking for Anything Serious” Means He Just Doesn’t Want it With You


I don’t care how awesome you are, how hot you are, how much of a catch you are. There has been a moment in your life where you really liked a guy and he’s said: “Sorry, I’m just not looking for anything serious.” At the time, it’s a huge blow and you think there’s something wrong with you. In a way, there is, but it’s not in the way you think.

The only thing that’s wrong with you is that you’re just not the right fit for each other.

If a guy says he’s not looking for something serious, it simply means that he’s not looking for something serious with you. Now, as much as I would like to tell you why he’s not interested, I’m not a mind reader so I don’t exactly know. However, I could offer you some words of wisdom and potential guesses:

He’s not attracted to you

It doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful, it doesn’t mean you’re not sexy, it seems means that you’re just not his type. Please, do me a favor and don’t fall into some self-conscious rabbit hole thinking that nobody will ever want you because your “ugly.” There are plenty of good looking people that just aren’t someone’s type. If you’re dating a guy and he says he isn’t looking for something serious, it could just mean that he’s not attracted to you and that’s perfectly okay.

If you believe in destiny or fate, even just a little bit, you know there’s someone out there for everyone. Even if you’re not physically attractive to one person, doesn’t mean you won’t be considered a goddess to another. All you have to do if be patient and not let someone’s opinion of you bring you down.

He’s not into you

The same way the physical appearance can attract you to someone and vice versa, so can personality. In a guy says that he’s not looking for anything serious, it may mean that your personality just don’t blend well together. You may be funny, smart, witty, everything that someone might want. Unfortunately, this guy isn’t that someone.

If he’s not into you, that’s perfectly normal. There are plenty of people in the world who just don’t get along. Think about all of the “great guys” you’ve gone out with but it didn’t go anywhere because you “didn’t feel sparks.” Yeah, this is basically that.

He doesn’t see a future

For whatever reason, the guy you’re into just doesn’t see a future with you. Maybe he has a different idea in his mind of what he wants his life to look like. Maybe he doesn’t think you fit into his current life. Maybe, if he’s a real asshole, he doesn’t think you’re good enough. At the end of the day, the reason why doesn’t really matter. The only thing that matters is that you shouldn’t be wasting your time on someone who doesn’t see a future with you.

He doesn’t want to make an effort

Getting into a relationship is easy, it’s the staying together part that’s a lot of damn work. Maybe the reason he doesn’t want anything serious is because he’s not willing to put in the effort. Perhaps he thinks that you’re not enough for him to put in the effort. Or, in other words, he’s an asshole and you need to find someone worth your time.

He simply doesn’t care

At a very young age I learned something very important: if a guy wants to make something happen, he’ll make it happen. If a guy really, truly likes you, he’ll do everything in his power to make you his. If he doesn’t want to lose you, he won’t lose you. If he wants to be with you, he’ll make it happen. So, if the guy you like isn’t trying to make it happen, he simply doesn’t care enough to.

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